Forgiving someone you love for hurting or offending you is one of the most challenging things to do. Love is the greatest gift God has given us, and the best way to practice it is in a relationship. Hence, relationships are an essential part of life and have the most significant influence on us. One of the most challenging parts of a romantic one is when you need to forgive your significant other for a betrayal or heartbreak. Sadly, some people remain committed to a troublesome person for longer than is required. Consequently, putting themselves at risk of unnecessary frustrations, pain and a toxic spiral. On the contrary, some people leave way too soon at the sight of a few hiccups in their relationship.
It would help if you had enough discernment not to leave too soon; and enough wisdom to know when to quit. Taking a chance on love is always risky because it involves two imperfect people trying to make a thing go right. But left turns are inevitable. When Peter asked Jesus how many times to forgive a brother who sins against him, Jesus responded by saying, “seventy times seven”. So how do you know when you’ve forgiven too much? First, you must have a good measure of self-worth to help you evaluate and judge whether you should continue with that relationship.
It is important to note that it is your responsibility to assess your dynamics and set limits on how much you can tolerate in the relationship. Grace is a gift we use to make amends and peace, but it was never intended to allow abuse or manipulation.
Get some more tips, from Given and Charl, on what red flags to look out for. Also, find out how you can navigate your way through understanding the difference between extending grace and when to draw the line by ending things gracefully. For more inspiration, listen to our podcasts on iono.fm.
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